Fe’s Natural Birth Story | Part Two

Hello! This is Fé’s Natural Birth Story Part Two!

If you haven’t done so already I suggest you read Fés Birth Story: Part One  to get all caught up =) Here is the rest of her birth story!

We got to the hospital around 7:00pm and Daniel got me into a wheelchair and went to go park the car. Sophie came out and wheeled me into the Emergency Room and Daniel quickly joined us with all of our stuff from the car. Again, I don’t really remember how we got from the car to the delivery room, but once we got there and I immediately took off my pants (that were completely soaked with amniotic fluid) and got into the hospital bed.

Soon the hospital midwife came in hooked me up to a monitor to track the baby’s heart rate. I was moving too much, however, because I was in so much pain so she ended up having to go inside and hook up a monitor to Fé’s head instead!

Also, at this point I really wanted an epidural. I had totally planned for an all natural childbirth  but I was in so much pain I asked for an epidural anyway. What scared me the most was that I thought I was only 5 cm dilated and I thought that if I was in this much pain now, what was it going to be like when I am 8 or 9 cm dilated!

Its protocol that they let you know all of the risks of getting an epidural before you make the final decision to get one. I already knew all the risks (see epidural pros and cons here) which is why I wanted to avoid getting an epidural in the first place. But I think I was in so much pain at the time I didn’t care anymore. The thought of being in that much pain for hours seemed absolutely unbearable!

The nurses first had to hook me up to an IV before they could give me an epidural. Normally I hate needles and I get really squeemish around them, but I was in so much pain I had no idea they were even trying to put in my IV. Apparently they hook up the IV properly because they kept going through the vein, so they had to call in the anisthiologist to do it and she ended up putting it on the inside of my elbow instead of my hand.

After I was all hooked up the midwife checked me to see how dilated I was and she said I was at 9cm! There was no way I was going to get an epidural at this point because I was going to be pushing in just a little bit. I got really excited when I heard I was already at 9m. I felt a giant cloud of relief come over me because the worst part was almost over.  I felt so much more confident and I knew that I could manage the pain just a little bit longer. The nurses starting to prepare the “launch pad” as they called it and I started to get really excited!

At this point during every contraction, I felt the overwhelming urge to push but the nurses told me that I had to wait just a little bit longer. After a few more VERY PAINFUL contractions I was finally allowed to push. Originally I wanted to push in a squatting position or on my side, but in the moment I didn’t care at all how I was going to push I just wanted to get the baby out! I held my legs up as far as I could hold them (Daniel helped) and during every contraction I tucked my chin into my chest and pushed down as hard as I could.

Pushing actually didn’t hurt at all. It was such a relief to be able to push. It made the contractions so much more bearable. It’s so nice to know that the end was in sight. They talk about the “ring of fire” when the baby’s head comes through the birth canal and it does feel exactly like a “ring of fire” but it is not extremely painful. I think the key is just to keep pushing through it and the baby will come right out. After a good three contractions and only 11 minutes later the pushing was over and baby Fé was finally out!


Her umbilical cord was actually really short, so they couldn’t put her all the way up on my belly right away. It stopped pulsing (normally this takes up to 5 minutes) right away so Daniel cut it pretty quickly. He said it was surprisingly hard to cut through! After he cut the cord they placed little Fé on my chest. It was so amazing finally hold her in my arms and see her face for the first time. Words really cannot express what an amazing and overwhelming feeling it is.


After an hour on my chest the nurses came in and weighed her, cleaned her, and dressed her. She weighed 3.950 kg or 8lbs 11oz (she was a big baby)! They checked her and told us she was a perfectly healthy baby.

We were required to stay in the hospital for 24-48 hours after the birth because I took anti-depressants during my pregnancy and they need to make sure Fé isn’t going through withdrawals. We spent the rest of the evening cuddling little Fé and trying to grasp what just happened. Daniel and I kept saying to each other how surreal everything was and that it was so crazy that our baby was finally here.


After two long nights in the hospital we were finally allowed to go home. There was nothing wrong with little Fé and Daniel and I were very ready to go home.

In Holland, our insurance pays for a Maternity Nurse to come everyday the first week we are home with the baby. We left the hospital on Sunday morning and our Maternity Nurse came to our house that afternoon to start helping us out! Ill post more on this later, but having a nurse come and help out the first week was a tremendous help to us, especially since my family is back in the States and Daniels mom lives in England so we don’t really have much help around here!

Fé’s birth was a truly life changing experience for both me and Daniel. Having a natural childbirth showed me that I am much stronger than I ever thought. It was a truly empowering experience and I think in the future I will choose to have another natural birth experience.

Stay tuned for an update on Fé’s first week at home and our wonderful experience with our maternity nurse!

Fé’s Birth Story | Part One

I promised I would post Fé’s birth story on the blog. It ended up being a little long (sorry!) So I made it in two parts =) I have already posted some pictures of Fé’s first days so be sure to check those out as well! Also, I apologize in advance for any typos or bad grammar, Fé is only a week old and I am still a little sleep deprived!

Fés Birth Story | Part One

Here goes part one….the early hours of labor!

It all started the day before on Thursday November 3rd when we had our 40 week midwife appointment. At this point I was 40 weeks and 5 days pregnant! At the appointment I told the midwife that I hadn’t really been feeling Fé move in my belly (which had been going on since the Friday before). I guess I thought it was normal in the last few days to not feel her so much so Daniel and I weren’t really concerned, but the midwife said we should have called her earlier because it is a sign that something could be up! Especially since she was already overdue.

The midwife had us go to the hospital to get an Ultrasound and hook me up to a CTG where they could measure the baby’s heart rate. In the Ultrasound everything looked good but she still couldn’t really see that the baby was moving. The CTG scan also looked good, her heart rate was perfect the whole time! The scan also measured my contractions and it was showing some regular contractions but I wasn’t really feeling them. To be honest, I thought I just had to poop!

Getting my CTG scan at the hospital on Thursday!

Getting my CTG scan at the hospital on Thursday!

Because they couldn’t see much movement on the ultrasound they wanted us to return to the hospital the next day to get another CTG scan, just to make sure everything was okay! We came in at 9am Friday morning to get another scan and her heart rate was also perfect. The scan also showed that I was having contractions but this time they felt a little bit stronger and they were much closer together.

After we left the hospital Daniel and I decided to go get a coffee at our favorite little coffee spot. My contractions were getting a little bit worse by this time but they still just felt like stronger menstrual cramps. After we got coffee I felt like taking a bath, so we went to Daniel’s Dad’s farm where he has a nice big bathtub and I soaked in the bathtub for a little bit. That felt so so nice! The contractions were still coming at this point but they weren’t getting that much stronger and the bath really relieved a lot of the pain.

After the bath we went back home and I felt like a tuna sandwich from Subway (I know…super random). So Daniel and I walked into town to get a subway and then we even went H&M to look for some socks! (again….super random). It felt pretty nice to walk but at this point I had to stop every couple of minutes to deal with a contraction, although they were still very manageable. I could still talk through them and mostly walk through them. I did notice that they were starting to get longer and a little stronger. We left H&M and came back home where I started to time my contractions.

My contractions were coming pretty frequently (about 4 minutes apart) and lasting for about a minute. This is about when the midwife told us to call her so that is exactly what we did =) Our wonderful midwife Sophie arrived around 3pm. She watched my contractions and measured how dilated I was. At this point I was 3cm dilated and 100% effaced! Sophie said that she would come back in three hours (around 6pm) to check on me again.

Sophia, our midwife, is checking out my belly! I was still in pretty good spirits and able to smile =)

Sophia, our midwife, is checking out my belly! I was still in pretty good spirits and able to smile =)

The next three hours were pretty long. My contractions were starting to get worse and worse. Daniel was amazing the whole time! We put on The Polar Express (we were in the Christmas mood!) and he made sure I had enough water and snacks. At one point I wanted to get in the shower to relieve some of the pain. We didn’t have a plastic chair to use in the shower but Daniel took his desk chair and wrapped it up in about three layers of plastic bags and packing tape so that I could sit in the shower. I sat in the shower for about an hour with the hot water on my back and it felt AMAZING. Okay, AMAZING isn’t the right word, the contractions were getting pretty horrible but the pain relief from the shower was really nice.

My Homemade Shower Chair!

My Homemade Shower Chair!

At this point, every time I felt a contraction I went into a child’s pose which seemed to be the most comfortable position for me to be in. Also, I could no longer talk through my contractions like I could a few hours earlier.

The three hours went by, and Sophie came back to check on me at 6pm. She checked my cervix and told me I was about 4-5cm dilated. To be honest, I was a little disappointed. I thought that I was in so much pain I must be more dilated than that! Sophia also decided that it was best to break my water to speed things up a little bit.

At this point, I actually wanted to stay home and try to finish out labor at home because I just didn’t really feel like leaving to go to the hospital. Sophie said, however, that if she breaks my water and the baby has had her first bowel movement then we must go to the hospital because the baby needs to be monitored because she could potentially be in some distress.

So she broke my water, which was extremely painful!! She did it during a contraction and I felt a huge gush of water and the contraction was soooo much harder and stronger than any contraction I had felt before. I couldn’t believe how painful it was. I thought the contractions before were bad, but they were easy compared to how this contraction felt! The baby had pooped in the water (it was a little brownish-greenish) so we needed to go to the hospital.

Daniel quickly got everything ready (even though the carseat and hospital bag had been sitting int he car for weeks already!) and Sophie helped me through another painful contraction. At this point, there was nothing I could do but squat down towards the ground and try to breath to get through the contraction.

We hopped in the car and Sophie followed us to the hospital. To be honest, I don’t really remember the car ride very much. I remember being in so much pain I just didn’t know what to do. I screamed and clung to Daniels arm and held on to the car door handle. It felt like the longest car ride of my entire life, even though the hospital is only about 15 minutes away from our house!

This is the end of part one!! Stay tuned for part two, after we arrived at the hospital!

Also check out some more pictures of Baby Fé! She is so alert and she is just 6 days old! She is also so funny and so beautiful and we love her ohhhhh sooo much!

Fés Birth Story

Getting in some quality family time before a nice long nap =)

Getting in some quality family time before a nice long nap =)


Fe with Great Grandma!

Fé with Great Grandma!


Fés First Bucket Bath! She like this much better than the big bathtub!

Fés First Bucket Bath! She like this much better than the big bathtub!

Stay tuned for Part Two!! (Update: Click here for part two!)